Obsessing about obsessing!?! I decided I’d got to stop obsessing. I began to obsess about it. Before that I became acutely conscious of others that obsess (how easy it is for me to see the faults of others but not my own). You know those people: just about every conversation seems to get bent […]
Michael Jackson – the controversy continues
So a new controversy regarding child sexual abuse hits our headlines, once again taking us to places which are uncomfortable, destabilising and unsettling. In the face of these difficult feelings we are often drawn to take rigid positions and, as so often in such matters, we end up in split camps spitting venom in a […]
Women who support the #MeToo movement must take sexual assault accusations against Asia Argento just as seriously
The #MeToo movement has shed light on a damaging culture of sexual abuse within the entertainment industry, and allowed for a wider conversation about sexual abuse encountered day-to-day. Dozens of women spoke out about being abused by Harvey Weinstein, many of them emboldened by Asia Argento, who spearheaded the movement. So it was hard to […]
We shouldn’t let 50 Cent’s comments overshadow the bravery of sexually abused or assaulted men
It’s impossible to have missed the comments made by 50 Cent in response to Terry Crews speaking up about his experience of sexual assault. The rapper mocked Crews stating that he didn’t “look like a victim”, and in turn reinforced the rape myth that ‘real men’ cannot be victims of rape. These remarks encapsulate many […]
The stigma of the stigma
Is stigma like fear? Just a hologram. Allow me to be frank with you if I may. I need to tell you something. I may not be what I seem. I want to tell you that I feel like a fraud. I want to be open with you. I want to share a deep dark […]