February 1 – 8 is the sexual abuse and sexual violence awareness week. To mark the week, we will post a series of blogs exploring what it means to be a survivor when you’re a man, and how we can all work to better support survivors.
“Self care” can be a challenge. If you are living with the impact of trauma, suffer from depression, or, like a number of survivors of sexual violence, struggle with low self-worth, it can be hard to find the energy or motivation to do what we know (and are frequently told) would be good for us.
One of the therapy groups we run is a Dungeons and Dragons therapy group, where survivors come together to play the tabletop game and take a journey of healing together.
No-one is born a man. Much like everyone else, I was born a baby, grew into a child, and became an adult. We all go through a process of becoming, girl to woman, boy to man, formed by time and different experiences. Some of us just have a few extra steps.
In the year 2000, aged 20, I was sexually assaulted by a man I had thought of as one of my best friends at the time.