In a series of blog posts over the next month or so, I will highlight some of the FAQs (frequently asked questions) that men who contact SurvivorsUK have talked about concerning sexual and relationship difficulties that they have had at different times in their lives. Not all male survivors of rape and other forms of sexual abuse will have sexual and relationship difficulties of course but, for those who do, the impact can be significant.
Q. What can I do if I find it difficult to trust people and am reluctant to get close to them in relationships?
A. Intimacy, the sense of closeness or togetherness that you feel with another person, can be nurtured and developed. You may want to seek counselling or psychotherapy if this is a difficulty that you face as a counsellor or therapist can help you work through the issues that prevent you from forming close attachments to others. There is information on this website about the SurvivorsUK counselling service for people based in London and surrounding areas. There is also a database of counselling and support services for those of you who live anywhere in England, Northern Ireland, Scotland or Wales.
If you do not want to talk to a counsellor or therapist right now, then there are still lots of things that you can do on your own. Our colleagues at Living Well in Australia have produced a very helpful website page about developing intimacy in relationships. The link is here http://www.livingwell.org.au/relationships/developing-intimacy-in-a-relationship/
Leave a comment below if there is anything you would like to say or add to this topic.
Seán, Senior Helpliner, SurvivorsUK
SurvivorsUK online chat is a helpline for men who have experienced sexual abuse either as a child or an adult. We also speak to their close friends and family. If you would like to access the online chat and get immediate support, please click here.