At SurvivorsUK, we want to help men who have experienced sexual abuse – no matter where they are.
That’s why we’ve assembled this list of self-help links. If you’re having a difficult time, perhaps you’re dealing with flashbacks, depression or any of the other common feelings and effects survivors experience, then hopefully one of these links will be able to offer you some help.
Self Help Links for Survivors
A Resource for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse – SurvivorsUK and LSG
LGBT+ People and Sexual Violence – Galop and LSG
Sexual Violence and Housing- Solace Women’s Aid and LSG
The Criminal Justice System – RASASC and LSG
Some useful guides and self-help resources developed with the support of Women and Girls Network, London Survivors Gateway project.
If you are a survivor of sexual abuse or supporting someone who is, there are a number of ways which you can explore to help you cope. Here are just a few thoughts from the counsellors here at SurvivorsUK. The list is not exhaustive and it can help to make your own.
Living Well is dedicated to the provision of a supportive, accessible, respectful, service to men who have experienced child sexual abuse or sexual assault, to partners, friends, family and service providers. The Living Well resource seeks to create, encourage and maintain men’s health and wellbeing in relation to self and others.
Survivors West Yorkshire is a specialist sexual violence abuse support service. Their guide provides useful information for adult men who are dealing with problems related to sexual abuse, whether the abuse happened in the past or quite recently, their partners, family, friends and service providers.
isurvive.org is a non-profit organisation for child abuse survivors learning to thrive. The purpose of this guide is to provide some information on the steps to take if you:
- are, or have been, a victim of abuse in order to obtain justice for the wrong that you have suffered
- want to help prevent others from being abused
- wish to obtain compensation for medical and psychological resources that you may require as part of the healing and recovery process.
HAVOCA is run by survivors for adult survivors of child abuse. The organisation provides support, friendship and advice for any adult who’s life has been affected by childhood abuse.
Sarah is an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (2001) and currently combines her private practice with her role as a counsellor for SurvivorsUK.
Survivors Manchester has published a full set of self-help leaflets providing useful information on different topics such as sexual abuse, anxiety, controlling anger, depression, domestic violence, eating disorders, panic, post traumatic stress, self harm and social anxiety. Leaflets have been published thanks to the support of NHS England, Northumberland, Tyne and Wear NHS Foundation Trust and JAM Manchester.
From Report to Court, published by Rights of Women, is a comprehensive guide for adult survivors of sexual violence covering the law, the process of reporting to the police and going to court. Although written for women, the information is also relevant for men.
Recently we observed in the media number of court cases involving death and sexual assault of gay/bi men by other gay men, all involving the use of hook up apps and chemsex.
This prompted Galop, London Friend and SurvivorsUK to join forces to create a “Consent & Chemsex Guide” for gay & bi men in London. These London-based organisations work with gay/bi men, and men who have sex with men, who experience sexual assault and other challenges relating to consent and chemsex. Their aim is to support them through advice on consent and what are their options if they have been sexually assaulted.
The Reporting Guide explains what happens from the point that a victim contacts the police, and seeks to answer the many questions about what happens next. It is designed to inform decision making and it is produced by Operation Hydrant – a coordination hub established in June 2014 to deliver the UK national policing response, oversight, and coordination of non-recent child sexual abuse investigations concerning persons of public prominence, or in relation to those offences which took place within institutional settings.