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Perseverance Pays

This blog post discusses the impacts of sexual abuse. If you are affected and need to speak to someone, please contact us via our helpline.

“Well, you know what to do so just leave him”

I am sure many survivors have heard that phrase, or a variation of it, many times when

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Please note that over the coming days our helpline will be operating limited hours due to staff shortages,

We are open:

Saturday 12th July ………….. 12pm-4pm

Sunday 13th July ………… 4pm-8pm

Other organisations you may want to contact in our absence

24/7 Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Line: 24/7 Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Line

SafeLine National Male Helpline & Online Services www.safeline.org.uk

1:1 chat sessions with trained support workers, in confidence.

We are here for any man, boy or non-binary person who has ever experienced unwanted sexual activity (such as words, images or touch). We are also here for loved ones supporting a survivor in their lives.

To learn more about our privacy and confidentiality policy click here.

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SurvivorsUK offers professional training on providing services to male survivors and the impact of sexual abuse and rape on men and boys. We offer this training to individuals and organisations at competitive rates from our premises in East London or, depending on numbers, at a rented space nearby.

To make a booking please complete the booking form and email it to [email protected], or call 020 3598 3898.

Upcoming Training Events

Bespoke Training

Depending on availability, we may be able to offer bespoke training packages to organisations at your premises.

Trainer: Dr Katherine Cox
Lunch provided.

Rates

Large organisations £150 per person (or £120 pp for 3+ bookings)
Small organisations or individuals £100 per person (or £75 pp for 3+ bookings)

Dates

Saturday 23 May 2020
10am to 4pm

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The London Survivors Gateway provides survivors of rape and sexual abuse with tailored advice on getting support in London, and help with accessing available services and resources. You can contact them directly or be referred by a professional (with your consent).

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Academic articles and research in the area of male rape, the sexual abuse of men and counselling for survivors.

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Attending

Service users will be asked to sign up for the panel in advance, in order to manage numbers. Should service users wish to attend an already full panel they can be given options to go on a cancellation list, provide a written or verbal contribution outside of the panel, or put on the list for the following panel meeting. To include maximum representation the panel will be open, meaning it can contain new members or people who have previously attended.

Structure

The panel will be facilitated by the Director, Counsellor & Groupwork Coordinator (or in the case of sickness other appropriate members of staff). An agenda will be produced in advance which will invite written contributions from those who cannot attend, or who wish to contribute anonymously. There will be space on the agenda for any other business. All matters that are not addressed during the panel will be added to the agenda for the following meeting.

Support

Space will be made before, during, and after the panel for any members who may feel emotionally affected by the content of the meeting and require support. This will be delivered by appropriately trained and experienced staff (e.g. counsellors and ISVAs).

Conduct

There will be a simple group agreement pre-prepared and agreed at the first-panel meeting to clarify expectations and responsibilities of all present. This will be displayed and agreed at each panel meeting.

Managing Expectations

While SurvivorsUK values the input of all its staff and service users, it will be made clear in the establishment of this panel that it is advisory in nature. In order to best meet the needs of ALL service users, SurvivorsUK cannot guarantee to fulfill all recommendations and suggestions made by the panel.